Sample Negotiation Checklist/Guide
Not certain about Consent? Check out our Consent Handout.
Here we have attempted to bring together all the potential questions that we’ve discussed. All of the questions may not be relevant to a given encounter, but this should give you a resource for making sure that you’ve covered most of the bases.
Partner Questions
What is your level of experience with hypnosis?
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What is your level of experience with (any other kink elements)?
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What do you hope/want to get out of this scene?
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What emotions or feelings do you want to get out of this scene?
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What physical sensations (if any) do you want to get out of this scene?
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Whitelist items – What things should definitely be in the scene?
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Known triggers (e.g. rape, blood, dogs, cold) to avoid in hypnotic scenes
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Limits. What things should definitely not happen
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Off limits body parts/areas
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Injuries/Issues
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Health concerns (including allergies to latex/lube if relevant)
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Have you ever had any problems with things you were told or asked
to do in a hypnotic state carrying over into your waking life?
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Safeword/Caution Words
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Safe Signs
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What do abreactions look like (if known)
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What should we do if there is a major abreaction
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What sort of aftercare will we do
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Safety/Emergency Contact
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Non Hypnosis
This isn’t intended to be a full checklist of all the non-hypnosis things that require consent. It is intended to be a quick guide to handle some of the most common non-hypnosis elements that require negotiation.
☐ Can I touch you?
☐ Erogenous touch
Where is it okay?
☐ Under the clothes?
☐ Can clothes come off?
Sexual touch
Masturbation ☐ give ☐ receive
Oral ☐ give ☐ receive
Genital ☐ give ☐ receive
Anything else…anal, etc.
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Kink
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During Hypnosis
☐ Description of sexual acts
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☐ Erotic Stimulation
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Suggestions/Whitelist – things your partner wants suggested
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Suggestions about yourself?
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Control suggestions?
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Post hypnotic suggestions and triggers?
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Permission for
☐ Eroticization
☐ Orgasm triggers
☐ Arousal triggers,
☐ Any public arousal triggers?
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Roleplay scenes
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Taboo areas open to investigation
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Information regarding experiences, taste , touch sensations
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Anything else?
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